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About Me
- Jaye O'Farrell-Stevens
- I was inspired by nature and driven by science. I attack everything in life with a mixture of extraordinary genius & naive incompetence, and it is often difficult to tell which is which.
Reading this situation I can't help but feel I relate strongly, however, I feel though I was once in Cahterine's shoes.
ReplyDeleteWhen in the position, I guess we like to tell ourselves that everything is okay, and we make excuses to hold onto the people we "love". People seem to become blinded to right and wrong when want something enough and I guess it all comes down to desire and the need to fee wanted.
I agree with you though, fully. The friends and family of this young lady have every right to be worried about her - as they say, once a cheater always a cheater?
I hope things work out for her. It's hard to break the vicious cycle of an unhealthy relationship. It's hard to watch someone go through it, and it's even harder to be in that situation. Once she finally breaks away from it though, she'll be so much better off. There's nothing quite like the freedom after leaving a poor relationship.
Good luck to Catherine! And I'll be sure to keep checking your blog as I've love what I've read so far! You have a great way with words and I find it very interesting to read :)
xx Amlizabeth.
On the contrary I believe no one truly knows how another feels, loves or hates. Isn't it wrong for you to create lucas as the 'dishonourable' guy just for making a mistake. He was blinded by lust but can you truly say you've never been blinded by wanting something so much you will ignore anything that could block you from getting it.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I resent the 'Once a cheat always a cheat' phrase. Thats just stereotyping people who have made mistakes in relationships. There are examples of people who have cheated once in their early years and then become happily married for over 40 years. Does that mean these people are still cheats for making on mistake?
This post is extremely hypocritical for your saying that Lucas is wrong for him to be nasty and jealous to all her close friends but you seem to find it okay to insult and judge him through online media outlets such as this. Maybe Lucas is over-protective and yes maybe he is jealous but maybe that is because he doesn't want to lose her, or is that all wrong and Lucas continues to be the monster and frankenstein of humanity which you portray him as.
I believe you have no right to judge him. Feeling and emotions are complex things - Not something a little boy with too much time on his hands can try to understand and investigate and then blog his useless findings on the internet. Your a hypocrite and you have no empathy. Your not perfect so do not judge.
I have to agree Anonynmous 1.
ReplyDeleteAlthough, what Lucas has done may be wrong, i don't think it's fair for you to number 1) get involved in it all and number 2) for you to publicize their relationship all other the internet.
Also, i found what you've very hypocritical compared to your previous blogs, so maybe you should have a read through them, especially the one's about your 'love' life in the summer.
By the mere nature of your comments being anonymous they lose all creditability, not that they had much anyway. However of the 200+ people who have looked at this post in the last day it does not surprise me a few people have not agreed.
ReplyDeleteFirstly I want to draw you're attention to the "blinded by lust" argument that you so keenly stated. It is true in cases people are blinded by lust but this was not one of those cases. For a large number of points I could tell you about.
Secondly you have criticized me as generalizing but you yourself have generalized in your 40 year point. That is a very true point but lives are built around generalizations, the French eat a lot, the Spanish argue a lot, the Germans are boring a lot etc. This is how we navigate are way through life drawing on generalizations and if you tell me you don't or are somehow above this, well I don't believe you.
Thirdly I may have painted the picture that Lucas is a dishonorable guy but actually I was very factual in my description and actually quite conservative, I could have gone on for hours cataloging his failures but that would have become tedious and undermined the point.
Fourthly anything I post on here I would have no problem saying out loud and in most cases have, you assuming I don't suggest I am a key bored warrior but I am a realist, and since you hid behind your anonymous claim it does not surprise me you are so forthright with your condemnation.
Finally I am not sure how my stature in references to "little boy" effects my writing and diction (if you could enlighten me I would be much obliged). I have used fake names and you both, I should think have a woefully inadequate understanding of the situation so in future if you want to judge make sure you are factual, make sure you are relevant 'little boy' and if you want to be taken seriously then have the balls to sign it.
Best wishes.
I liked this blog post and I could apply it to the lives of myself and others that I know, so I do know what you are trying to say.
ReplyDeleteHowever, looking at the comments here, I can understand why there has been some criticism of your post. Some of your comments like the 'once a cheat, always a cheat'... Maybe you should think about that before you blog it? Cheating is an inexcusable thing, I agree, but for example if you found out that a friend had cheated on somebody or yourself did it, I think you would have a very different view point.
Just something to think about!
people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, your are an over opinionated idiot. for someone who thinks love is control you have a very warped mind. you need to check yourself before you comment on other's relationships
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